Feeling overwhelmed? Isaac Newton can help

I was working with a business client recently who was feeling overwhelmed with the sheer workload ahead of him. He suffered from ‘never-ending list syndrome’ (okay, I’ve just made that syndrome up) where he would have a huge list of things to do but for every thing that he completed and crossed off the top of the list, it seemed that he was adding an extra two things to the bottom. As days and weeks went by, he found he was achieving less and less and any motivation that he had was now turning to procrastination. His focus now seemed to be wavering between various social networking sites, spider solitaire and Sky Sports but very little was being done for his business.

The problem is that we can only consciously process about 7 pieces of information at a time so when we try to think of a number of things greater than that (such as on a long list) we can become stressed, anxious and out of control. We also very often distort the amount of work we have to do so the task just seems so much greater than it really is. One way people deal with this is to give up altogether and do nothing which ultimately makes matters worse as the list will continue to grow.

To help my client, I gave him two very simple but effective tips. First of all, I suggested that when he first got into work that he should decant from his list a maximum of 5 items that are priorities for that day and put them on a new, separate list. I stressed that it was essential that it was possible to achieve all of these things in the day otherwise he was to remove items from the list until it was achievable. The never-ending list was then to be put out of sight and he was just to work on one item at a time until all items on the new list were completed. This meant that he no longer would have a large number of items to worry about. Having only a small number of achievable tasks to aim for can have a significant impact on our motivation and also gives us a feeling of achievement and closure at the end of the day when the list is completed (which the never-ending list never does).

My second tip was that, contrary to some widely held views which suggest it is best to get the biggest thing out of the way first, he should in fact do the easiest/smallest thing first. Why? Well, this is where we look to Isaac Newton and his First Law of Motion (otherwise known as the Law of Inertia), which states “An object at rest stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion”. If we aim to start on something that only takes 10 minutes, we have already created motion so the likelihood is that we will continue onto the next thing using the momentum from the easy task.

So if you are feeling overwhelmed all you really need to do is create a small, achievable list and just get moving!  

Andy Barton

Performance Consultant

The Sporting Mind 

Sportlobster TV: What does a relegation battle do to the mind?

I had the pleasure of doing an interview with Sportlobster, the new social networking site for sport. I was sharing the couch with former Premiership footballers Jimmy Bullard, Leon McKenzie and Paul McVeigh. We were discussing the mental effects of a relegation battle. The programme can be accessed by clicking here.

Andy Barton
Performance Consultant
The Sporting Mind

If you want to get ahead, get a purpose

One of the questions I very often ask my clients when they tell me they have a goal in mind is "for what purpose are you striving for this goal?" What I want to establish from this question is whether they are doing it just for themselves, for someone else or whether they have a bigger reason to achieve the goal.

It is certainly important that the person wants to do it for themselves first. You may be surprised how many of my clients tell me that they have a goal in mind but there is something about their body language and tone of voice that suggests otherwise. Very often it becomes established that the goal isn't theirs at all but somebody else's (usually a parent or coach). This is where you end up with 'pushy parent' syndrome where a parent is living their own dreams vicariously through their children and their children end up pursuing something that they would rather not. The problem with striving for a goal for someone else is that eventually any motivation to train, learn and develop your skills will turn to resentment, lack of drive and, often, fear of failure (not wanting to let people down) which all make achievement far less likely.

For a goal to be successful it is essential that it is your own goal. However, to make a goal even more likely (and to make it more fulfilling) it is much better to have a reason which is bigger than yourself to do it. This is very different to doing it for somebody else. This is about having a purpose or a mission to strive for. Purpose takes many forms and can essentially be anything that you feel to be really important. Examples could include wanting to do something for your country or community, doing something for a charity, for religious reasons, to reflect a certain philosophy, overcoming adversity, to be the best at something or to do something that has never been done before.

When Roger Bannister came a disappointing fourth at the Helsinki Olympics in 1952, he was close to giving up the sport. He only decided to continue when he discovered his purpose;he wanted to be the first man to run a mile in under 4 minutes. Having this goal in mind motivated him to dedicate himself to do what ever it took to the achieve this cause. He made significant changes to his training regime and absorbed himself in the task in hand. The extra impetus he got from pursuing his cause led to his eventual success in May 1954 when Bannister achieved the feat by running the mile in 3.59.4

Having a purpose, whether it is in work, sport or any other area of life, gives an individual greater motivation, more focus, increased determination as well as greater resilience to put everything into achieving a goal. So if you want to achieve a goal, make sure you know why you want to achieve it first.

Andy Barton

The Sporting Mind

Tips for an effective New Year’s Resolution

The New Year is always a good time for contemplation and dreaming of a better future. It is a time when people resolve to make a difference to their lives. They are going to get fitter, work harder, get a better job, drink less, lose weight, give up smoking, earn more money, pay more attention to their families, learn a language, improve their sport, climb a mountain, run a marathon or take up a new career. Some people stick to their resolutions; most don’t. So how do you make your resolutions a reality?  Here are a few tips.

1. Write your goal down

It has been found that people who write their goals down are much more likely to achieve them. To make the goal more meaningful, write it down in you best handwriting on your best stationery and then hang it up where you can see it. As the expression goes “Don’t just think it, ink it.”

2. Make it positive

When writing your goal, make sure it is stated in the positive. Our unconscious mind cannot process negatives so we end up focusing on the thing we don’t want to happen. If you were to say “I don’t want to get angry with the kids when they make a mess”, we end up playing an internal movie of doing exactly that. Instead it would be better to say “When the kids make a mess, I want to stay calm and relaxed.”

3. Define your goal

The more defined a goal is the more real it becomes. For instance, if you were to set a goal to be “successful”, it is such an abstract term that it is almost meaningless. When we define a goal it fires up the imagination. The more defined the goal is the more your mind has to work on to help you get your goal. Imagine what you would see, hear and feel when you achieve your goal so you know exactly what you are aiming for.

4.Create the journey

Once you have established your goal, it needs to be broken down into small pieces. This makes a big goal much more achievable as you are only focused on one small thing at a time. As the saying goes, “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time”.

5. Take action

The bit where most people become unstuck is the fun bit, putting the goal into practice. People often give up because they feel they don’t have time or see the goal as being too big. If you just commit to doing 5 minutes towards your goal every day, it is likely that you will actually end up do considerably more as you get into the flow. As Newton’s first law of motion states: “A body in motion stays in motion”.

6. Enjoy it!

We are far more effective when we are in a happy mood so it is really important to approach your goals in a positive manner. If you adopt a smile and positive body language and talk about your goal in an effusive way, it will become something you look forward to doing rather than dread.

Here’s wishing you a wonderful 2014. I hope it is everything that you want it to be!

Andy Barton

Performance Consultant

The Sporting Mind

Beware the "realists"

Earlier this year I was reminded of the story of the man who went to his doctor for a regular check up. On this occasion the patient declared that there was no longer anything the doctor could do for him because he was already dead. Slightly bemused the doctor humoured the man and asked him all sorts of questions about his condition to get the man to realise the foolishness of his claim. However, rather than changing his patient’s mind, the patient, if anything, became more convinced of his demise as the questions kept coming. Finally, the doctor had a Eureka moment and asked the patient “Do dead people bleed?” Straight away the patient retorted, “Of course not. A dead person couldn’t possibly bleed.” The doctor took a syringe from his desk and asked the patient if he could try and take some blood from him. “You can do your best but I assure you, you will not find any blood there.” The doctor then proceeded to inject the syringe into the patient’s arm and fill it with the patient’s blood and then, with a flourish, presented the syringe triumphantly out in front of him. The patient look perplexed and then finally, after a long pause, exclaimed, “My word, I was wrong. Dead people really do bleed!”

The thing that prompted the memory of this story was a phone call I received from a researcher from one of our leading radio stations. They were doing a feature on the back of the England U21 football team’s poor performance in the European U21 Championship in the summer and wondered whether I would be interested in participating. The theme of the feature was “why do British sports people bottle it at the big event?” They weren’t just referring to football but they seemed to be generalising it to all sports. Once I’d picked my chin off the floor, I pointed out to them that they seemed to have missed the outstanding results in the Olympics, including the magnificent displays by the likes of Jessica Ennis, Laura Trott and Mo Farah, Andy Murray’s performance in the US Open, Rory McIlroy winning 2 major golf championships, Bradley Wiggins winning the Tour de France, Ronnie O’Sullivan’s amazing return to win the snooker World Championships, the Brownlee brothers dominating the triathlon world. Interestingly, since they contacted me, Andy Murray has won Wimbledon, the British Lions have defeated the Australians, Justin Rose has won the US Open golf championship and Chris Froome has won the Tour de France. Hardly “bottling it”.

The belief the people from the radio station held about the British sports people reminded me of when I watched a TV discussion programme a while back after a long hot summer (it was a few years ago) when after just 2 days of rain a woman on the programme exclaimed what terrible weather we had had that year.

So why did they get it so wrong? Well, in a sense, they didn’t. What we believe is essentially a result of how we perceive the World. It is not how the World actually is. It has been estimated that we are processing about 2 million bits of information every second of the day, through our sight, our hearing, our sense of touch, our sense of smell and our sense of taste. If we could be aware of all of that information at once we would go stark raving mad. In fact, we are only able to hold approximately 110 bits of this information in our conscious awareness at any one time, just a tiny fraction. The rest of the information is deleted, distorted and generalised to form our perception. What that means is that when we have formed a belief, whether it is a positive belief or a limiting belief, unless the evidence is overwhelmingly strong, we are likely to delete anything that contradicts the belief from our awareness. If, for instance, you believe you can’t tell a joke, you will only remember times when a joke has fallen flat and will delete the times when you’ve had people rolling round in stitches. Thus your belief will remain intact. If, however, you actually look for evidence that contradicts your belief (I would suggest you only do this with a limiting belief), you are more likely to diminish or even eradicate the belief.

I couldn’t do the radio programme due to other commitments but something must have challenged their belief as the theme of the programme when it was aired was no longer about British sport in general but was limited solely to football.

The point is if you want to have a happy, fulfilling and rewarding life, you don’t have to change the World. You only have to change your perception.

Andy Barton

Performance Consultant

Wider Vision Ltd

If you want to succeed, prepare to fail.

One factor that prevents people from achieving their goals is the fear of making mistakes, something which affects individuals in all areas of life. People become paralysed by fear of making a poor decision, taking a wrong turn, losing a competition, missing a target or just looking bad.

The interesting thing is that successful people tend to ‘fail’ considerably more than other people; they just don’t consider it to be failure. There is a saying in NLP is “There is no failure, only feedback.” Successful people tend to see making mistakes as being an essential factor in their development. As Einstein once said, "Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new."

If we want to improve our ability to do something it is more useful do develop a learning mindset where the focus is on learning and experimentation rather than trying to maintain a status or to look good. The joy of any performance or task should be in the implementation rather than the result. And if you make a mistake, instead of getting stressed, angry or frustrated, it is much more constructive to accept it and learn from it. Michael Jordan, considered by many to be the best basketball player that ever lived, summed it up wonderfully.

“I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

Andy Barton

Performance Consultant

Wider Vision Ltd

Don’t change the World; just change your perception

I was recently reminded of the story of the man who went to his doctor for a regular check up. On this occasion the patient declared that there was no longer anything the doctor could do for him because he was already dead. Slightly bemused the doctor humoured the man and asked him all sorts of questions about his condition to get the man to realise the foolishness of his claim. However, rather than changing his patient’s mind, the patient, if anything, became more convinced of his demise as the questions kept coming. Finally, the doctor had a Eureka moment and asked the patient “Do dead people bleed?” Straight away the patient retorted, “Of course not. A dead person couldn’t possibly bleed.” The doctor took a syringe from his desk and asked the patient if he could try and take some blood from him. “You can do your best but I assure you, you will not find any blood there.” The doctor then proceeded to inject the syringe into the patient’s arm and fill it with the patient’s blood and then, with a flourish, presented the syringe triumphantly out in front of him. The patient look perplexed and then finally, after a long pause, exclaimed, “My word, I was wrong. Dead people really do bleed!”

The thing that prompted the memory of this story was a phone call I received a few weeks ago from a researcher from one of our leading radio stations. They were doing a feature on the back of the England U21 football team’s poor performance in the European U21 Championship and wondered whether I would be interested in participating. The theme of the feature was “why do British sports people bottle it at the big event?” They weren’t just referring to football but they seemed to be generalising it to all sports. Once I’d picked my chin off the floor, I pointed out to them that they seemed to have missed the outstanding results in the Olympics, including the magnificent displays by the likes of Jessica Ennis, Laura Trott and Mo Farah, Andy Murray’s performance in the US Open, Rory McIlroy winning 2 major golf championships, Bradley Wiggins winning the Tour de France, Ronnie O’Sullivan’s amazing return to win the snooker World Championships, the Brownlee brothers dominating the triathlon world. Interestingly, since they contacted me, Andy Murray has won Wimbledon, the British Lions have defeated the Australians, Justin Rose has won the US Open golf championship and Chris Froome has won the Tour de France. Hardly “bottling it”.

The belief the people from the radio station held about the British sports people reminded me of when I watched a TV discussion programme a while back after a long hot summer (it was a few years ago) when after just 2 days of rain a woman on the programme exclaimed what terrible weather we had had that year.

So why did they get it so wrong? Well, in a sense, they didn’t. What we believe is essentially a result of how we perceive the World. It is not how the World actually is. It has been estimated that we are processing about 2 million bits of information every second of the day, through our sight, our hearing, our sense of touch, our sense of smell and our sense of taste. If we could be aware of all of that information at once we would go stark raving mad. In fact, we are only able to hold approximately 110 bits of this information in our conscious awareness at any one time, just a tiny fraction. The rest of the information is deleted, distorted and generalised to form our perception. What that means is that when we have formed a belief, whether it is a positive belief or a limiting belief, unless the evidence is overwhelmingly strong, we are likely to delete anything that contradicts the belief from our awareness. If, for instance, you believe you can’t tell a joke, you will only remember times when a joke has fallen flat and will delete the times when you’ve had people rolling round in stitches. Thus your belief will remain intact. If, however, you actually look for evidence that contradicts your belief (I would suggest you only do this with a limiting belief), you are more likely to diminish or even eradicate the belief.

I couldn’t do the radio programme due to other commitments but something must have challenged their belief as the theme of the programme when it was aired was no longer about British sport in general but was limited solely to football.

The point is, if you want to have a happy, fulfilling and rewarding life, you don't have to change the World. You only need to change your perception.

Andy Barton

Wider Vision Ltd.